What “The Nice Guy” does wrong
There is a big distinction between what “The Nice Guy” does to attract women and what “The Guy She Wants” does for her:
The Nice Guy:
- is someone she can count on
- is someone she can talk to that understands her
- is someone she has no fear of intimacy with
The Guy She Wants
- is someone she can count on that is also able to make her feel secure (This varies with what the Nice Guy can do because The Guy She Wants is able to go the extra mile and give her the feeling that she is being taken care of and the Nice Guy can only listen and encourage her to go in the direction she wants to go)
- is someone she can talk to and also understands her about how things affect both of them , not just herself (which is where the Nice Guy misses out, she never talks about what her and the Nice Guy can do together)
- is someone she does have a fear of intimacy with, as it relates to arousal and stimulation, both physically and mentally. She is concerned about doing the right things and encourages input from the Guy She Wants both in touch and in speech.